Brother, Help Thyself Awards $75k in Grants

Brother, Help Thyself (BHT), one of the truly worthwhile LGBTQ organizations, handed out a total of $75,000 in grants to 34 LGBTQ and HIV/AIDS nonprofits in the Greater Baltimore-Washington, DC region. The ceremony was held on January 20 at the Baltimore Eagle.  

Mayor Catherine Pugh brought greetings on behalf of the residents of Baltimore, as did Jeffrey Hitt of the Maryland Department of Health.

“The story here isn’t that BHT gave out $75,000 today,” said Andrew McCarty, grant reception chairman, in a statement. “The story here is that in the era we find ourselves in today, where our freedoms and rights, and healthcare choices are being threatened, these 34 non-profits, with our help, are out there each and every day fighting to preserve and defend those rights and freedoms in support of our community. We are proud to play a small role in that work.”

2017 BHT Grant Awards

AIDS Action Baltimore - $4,140.00

Athletes United for Social Justice - "The Grassroots Project" - $1,130.00

Black, Gifted & Whole Inc. - $5,830.00

Breaking Ground - $2,930.00

Capitol Hill Arts Workshop - $830.00

Casa Ruby Inc. - $4,390.00

D.C.’s Different Drummers - $1,130.00

DC Center for LGBT Community - $2,360.00

Dickey Memorial Presbyterian Church - $150.00

Gay Men's Chorus of Washington, DC - $560.00

FreeState Justice - $920.00

Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Baltimore - $770.00

Health Options & Positive Energy Foundation, Inc (HOPE DC) - $3,790.00

Heart to Hand, Inc - $3,410.00

HIPS - $3,580.00

HopeSprings, Inc. - $3,350.00

Latino GLBT History Project - $2,200.00

LULAC Council 11125 - $1,000.00

Mary's House for Older Adults, Inc. - $8,280.00

Metro DC PFLAG - $850.00

Mid-Atlantic Deaf & Interpreter Fund - $1,670.00

Mosiac Theater Company of DC - $350.00

New Ways Ministry, Inc. - $1,980.00

PFLAG Columbia-Howard County MD - $1,020.00

PFLAG Westminster MD - $1,020.00

Rainbow Families DC - $2,080.00

Rainbow History Project Foundation - $790.00

Rainbow Theater Project - $540.00

SMYAL - $1,690.00

St. Margaret's Church Vestry - "Charlie's Place" - $3,030.00

TransGender Education Association of Greater Washington - $1,460.00

UUC of Rockville "Rainbow Youth Alliance - $4,740.00

Wanda Alston Foundation - $2,470.00

Washington Renegades Rugby Football Club - $560.00

TOTAL

$75,000.00

BHT also presented four annual community service awards:

▲Anthony J. Bachrach Award for Outstanding Service (to an individual), to Baltimore’s own Rik Newton-Treadway for his longtime and terrific support of our community.

 ▲Billy Collison Award (to an underdog, and grantee), was presented to the Latino GLBT History Project who does so much, with so very little, to preserve the history of the LatinX LGBTQ community in Washington, DC.

 ▲George Dodson Business Award (to a business supportive of the community) was presented to the Baltimore Eagle (for a second time no less) for its outstanding support of our community.

 ▲Founders Award (to a non-profit, doesn’t have to be a grantee) was presented to the Wanda Alston Foundation for its record of vital service to the homeless LGBTQ youth population in Washington, DC.

“Our community has some great unsung legends who for years have gone about their days working for the betterment of LGBTQ people,” said McCarty. “None of us are in this for self-aggrandizement, and we believe it is vital to recognize folks and groups we collectively feel are worthy of recognition.”

Since its incorporation in 1978, BHT has now given out $3,169,699.45.  For more information about BHT call 202-347-2246  or email  info@brotherhelpthyself.org.

G•A•Y Lounge to Close

G•A•Y Lounge closing its doors.  Photo courtesy of OpenTable.com

After less than six months in operation, the owners of Baltimore's G•A•Y Lounge decided to close the Mount Vernon establishment.  The reason for the closing is not due to a lack of popularity; instead, the owners—Robert Gay and Joshua Persing—believe they could not comply with the contract.

“Unfortunately, when we entered into this venture, we entered with what we thought, was a concrete contract with the previous owner,” according to a statement posted on the bar’s Facebook page on October 11.

“Contract and legal jargon aside, the bottom line is that this contract has become more fluid than we are comfortable with, and at this time, we do not have the ability to keep up or comply with the ever-changing demands and expectations. After much deliberation and with sadness in our souls, we have been forced to make the difficult decision to close G•A•Y.”

G•A•Y Lounge opened on April 28 to much enthusiasm within Baltimore’s LGBT community who had seen the loss of gay bars in recent years.  Its venue at 518 North Charles Street was the same building that had previously been inhabited by Louie’s Book Store and subsequent businesses. 

Prior to its opening, Pershing touted G•A•Y Lounge’s concept and "chic, eclectic style" and believed it "would stand out as an icon within the community."  

"It is with heavy hearts, but full glasses that we toast to the official closing of G•A•Y. We toast to you – the community that immediately embraced us, supported us, defended us and made us an absolute success here in Mount Vernon. Opening G•A•Y was our dream. It was a dream that came to fruition, and that was because of you, our loyal and steadfast patrons - Thank you. You have made us feel more welcome and wanted than we could have ever imagined."

Disappointing as the closing may be, the owners vow to re-emerge in the future.

“While today we announce that we are closing our doors, we also make a promise for the future – This is not the end,” the statement reads. “We want you to know that we have every intention of coming back, and coming back better than before. When the time is right and the cards fall back into place, we plan to recreate this dream of ours and rekindle the spark that ignited so quickly here in a small corner bar in Mount Vernon.”

They can take solace in the fact that few people thought the Baltimore Eagle could overcome a series of daunting obstacles and return, but it has, and it’s thriving.

Are Gay Bars the Next Dinasours?

When the Hippo announced its impending closing, there was a lot of collective hand-wringing.   Many in Baltimore’s LGBT communities saw this as a disaster and perhaps the final nail in the coffin for LGBT identity.  They feel the gay bar will go the way of the phone booth, record stores, and liberal Republicans.

The soon-to-close Hippo

To be sure, we have witnessed the closing of local gay bars with The Eagle in 2012 and the Quest in 2014.  The Hippo’s last dance is expected later in 2015, Grand Central may be up for sale in 2016, while another bar south of the city is teetering on closing in the very near future.  Jay’s on Read, while not technically a gay bar but popular among LGBT folks, faces an uncertain future.

Bars shut down for a variety of reasons, but for the most part it’s because of financial considerations resulting from a falloff in patronage.  The most popular reason discussed is that younger gay people are frequenting straight bars with their straight friends.  Baltimore icon John Waters believes that tendency is why gay bars are eventually going to vanish. 

“The coolest gay kids today don’t want to go to a gay bar.  They want to go to a hip bar where straights and gays are mixing,” Waters said during a recent WYPR interview . 

Grand Central owner Don Davis agrees. In that same interview Davis observed that gay people are feeling more comfortable with going with straight friends to a straight bar.  He feels the change in “demographics” will sustain this trend.

There are other factors in play.  Men don’t cruise at the bars as they once did, using phone apps and the Internet to replace hooking up through personal contact at bars.  It’s cheaper since less alcohol is consumed (or needed) and rejection is less painful.  Still others are bored by the bar scene and prefer alternative sources of amusement.

However, The Baltimore Eagle didn’t close because leather men and leather women took flight to straight establishments.  The previous owner passed away and the estate sold the bar.  If the new ownership of The Baltimore Eagle fails to have a controversial Liquor Board ruling overturned, the bar will remain closed.

The mixing of straights and gays at bars became more evident during the period when there was a Guerilla Gay Bar movement between 2009 and 2011.  To provide an alternative to the gay bar scene, monthly outings consisting of an “invasion” of gays at selected straight bars and clubs around Baltimore were scheduled with prior notice given to the bar’s management and staff.  



The Baltimore Eagle is already closed but for how long?

With one exception, because of a failure to communicate effectively, these events were hugely successful with no incidents or any other ostensible problems.  The bars’ staffs were eager to take in our money and the other patrons enjoyed or at least put up with our presence, which often numbered in the hundreds.
  

The following year marriage equality passed by referendum in Maryland confirming the increased acceptance by the straight folks.  Nationally, polls indicate that same-sex marriage is favored by a 3 to 2 margin.  Yet, even if those results are accurate, there are still 2 out of 5 who oppose marriage equality.  That’s a significant number, if not the majority.

Therefore, by no means is our acceptance universal or complete.  A gay couple in Chelsea in NYC can attest to the fact that there are haters out there who would do us harm as they were brutally attacked.  The Supreme Court’s ruling on same-sex marriage, if favorable as it appears likely, will cause a backlash among many groups.  And the Republican candidates in the presidential clown car are falling all over each other in an effort to appeal to their bigoted base by raising the temperature on strident anti-gay marriage rhetoric. 

I don’t believe that the gay bar will become a dinosaur any time too soon.  Sure, younger gays and lesbians may be frequenting straight establishments.  But do male couples actually dance at these places, holds hands, or are affectionate? I certainly would not feel comfortable or safe dancing or being affectionate with my husband at a straight club.  Or, will these guys dance with their female friends as closeted gay men once did in the past while out in public? 

A gay bar does provide a secure space where one can be him or herself.  You’re with folks with more common interests, and that’s a boost towards the social benefits.  If you’re holding the hand of your gay or lesbian partner or spouse in a gay bar, you don’t have to look around to be sure the person behind you won’t break a bottle over your head.  Of course, it can happen but much less likely in a gay bar.

Regardless, existing gay bars need to step it up. Though there will be fewer gay bars around, those remaining should do well at least in the near term.  It would behoove bar owners to be more innovative and creative to keep the customers entertained and interested in patronizing their establishments.   They ought to listen to their customers to see what they would like.

As Don Davis noted on WYPR, Grand Central offers special events to keep things interesting and exciting in order for him to compete.  He unapologetically encourages a straight crowd to join in the festivities and stresses that Grand Central is an “alternative bar” and not a gay bar per se.

It is apparent that further acceptance by society fueled by the younger generation may ultimately obviate the need for gay bars or even LGBT organizations.  That would be a tangible sign of progress though we still have a ways to go.  Until then the gay bar will continue to be an integral part of LGBT social life and will not vanish altogether, at least not yet.